Once you have a short list, plan to spend a good amount of time getting to know the community. At a minimum, you should spend a full day at each community being considered seriously. Plan to attend and participate in scheduled resident activities or programs. Eat at least one meal in the dining room to sample the food. Talk with current residents and their families. Learn what they like and don't like about living at the residence. Meet as many of the senior staff as possible, so you get a feel for the facility. Watch and listen. How do staff and residents interact? How will you feel if you were to live in that community and be talked to or treated in a similar fashion?

If after spending time you are still uncertain, do not hesitate to ask to spend even more time. Most communities will welcome this level of interest on your part. The good ones will look for ways to provide you with greater insight into what they offer. Many even offer guest stays so that a senior who is unsure can actually try out the community before making a commitment. Moving into a retirement community is a significant transition for an individual. Take the time and gather the information you need to be comfortable that you are making the best decision possible.